Like anything in life, nothing in the world is worth doing unless it means effort, pain and difficulty. Theodore Roosevelt once uttered these important words that really do convey across most decisions you will have to make. However, even though dating can be complicated and cause heartbreak, in some situations you just have to take a step back and realise that all signs point to the fact you are dating the wrong person.
You could be dating someone and at first, everything seems great. The longer relationships lasts, the more bad habits you discover about the other person and then years down the line you just wished you had never wasted your time with the person lying next to you.
So, how do you know if a relationship is the real deal or a ticking time bomb?
Well, here are just some of the signs you should be looking out for that your relationship isn’t going to last.
You No Longer Look Forward To Seeing Your Man
A telltale sign that you are in a relationship with the wrong guy is when you no longer look forward to spending time in his company.
Whether it’s a brand new relationship or one that has lasted a few years, the sign should tell you maybe its time to call it a day. At the very beginning of relationships, you should be excited to see your man and struggle to keep your hands off him.
In a long-term relationship, you should be meeting to keep the spark alive that you once had by enjoying dates that bring back amazing memories.
When you reach the point you where are bored and dreading the next time you meet, you should bite the bullet and call it a day.
Despite Being In A Relationship, You Feel Lonely
Unless you are in a long relationship you may not have a clue what this point is but you will once you move into your home with your partner. After a long time together you can become set in your ways.
You get home from work, eat, watch TV and go to bed. This routine can lead to a weird feeling, whereby you sit next to your partner and still feel like they are 100 miles away with the fairies. This can be caused by things being left unsaid and will not be resolved without proper discussion.
A lack of intimacy and connection is not a good sign for your relationship.
You Cheat On Your Partner
Personally, I think you should never cheat on your partner if things aren’t working, this is because the results can be devastating to every person involved, for example, you may never trust a partner again.
If you do find yourself cheating, this should be the biggest signal that you are not happy with your partner and are most likely with the wrong person.
Don’t be fooled! Your new lust may not just be because you have discovered that you are attracted to another man, in fact, you may have gone looking for intimacy that you feel you are missing in your current relationship.
Find the underlying cause and fix it. Cheating doesn’t help anybody.
You Have Become More Like Friends Than Lovers
Let’s not pretend that sex isn’t important in a relationship. Sex is what separates a friendship from “the next level.” If you are in a relationship, all passion is lost and you no longer want to have sex; your lack of libido may be because you are no longer happy that you are in a relationship with the wrong guy. It’s times like this when you should call it a day and think about going your separate ways; otherwise, you will waste even more of your time in a relationship that is not working.
Listen To Your Friends And Family
Before you were in a relationship, the people who knew you better than anyone else were your friends and family. They have seen you at your highest moments and your lowest and will be able to see if you are currently unhappy.
Always listen to the advice of those close to you and don’t just dismiss the fact they think you are with the wrong guy because you don’t want to listen to it.
These people care about you and are only looking out for your best interests.
What He Said About Dating The Wrong Girl
There are two sides to every story. In relationships, guys can also see the signs that the girl they are dating is not the right partner for them; This is not uncommon, but the question is: Are men more sensitive than they let on, or are they really that they are bored of sleeping with the same girl?
Here are the signals that guys should look for to see if they are dating the wrong person.
She No Longer Appreciates What You Do For Her
Being taken for granted is never a good sign. A girl who no longer values what you do for her shows that she may be bored of you, are you willing to accept that?
Sometimes you will feel like nothing you do is ever good enough and this is not only unhealthy for your relationship, but even more so for your mental health.
On the other hand, if you stop appreciating what your girl does for you, then you have the wrong mindset and should consider that you are dating the wrong person.
You Are In A Committed Relationship, But No Longer Date
One of the biggest reasons that long-term relationships don’t work is because the spark dies and couples make no effort to get it back alive again.
At first, relationships are exciting; but no matter how long you are in a relationship for, you need to still have fun to keep the spark alive. If you and your partner have become “too comfortable“, you need to enjoy some activities to rekindle the spark.
If you stop going for dinners, watching films at the cinema and making time for each other, it won’t work.
You No Longer Have Sex
We are all animals and yes, males do have a sexual instinct that most can’t control.
Friends with benefits are always nice, but nothing compares to the connection you get from a relationship. If your partner stops wanting to have sex with you, then this is a huge red flag.
It’s important that both your partner and yourself are fulfilled in order to maintain a highly-functional relationship.
The Things You Used To Like Together Now Annoys You
Every couple has those little things that they enjoy that no one else would understand.
The longer a relationship lasts, the higher the chance that these little things that at first connected you, now start to really annoy you.
When you realise that these things begin to annoy you, then you have to consider that it might be a sign to break up.
Remember, don’t be hasty as everyone can go through short spells of this; however, if these thoughts persist and it becomes something that you cant shake off, splitting up maybe the best for both parties.
You Will Find Yourself Giving Your Partner Reasons To Dump You
When you are coming to the end of a relationship, you will find yourself picking fights and starting arguments for no reason.
Once the argument is over you may even wonder why you even started an argument over what TV program to watch.
If this is you, then you will find that you are starting fights to give your partner the reason to dump you so you don’t have to end things with them.
This is not healthy for either party and you should get your act together and end the relationship.
Just remember that all of the things discussed in this article are is just the signs to look out for. The most important factor is what your heart and head are saying.
If you are happy, you should never end something at the risk of being hurt. If you are unhappy and have seen these signals in your relationship, maybe it is time to call it a day.
Live life with no regrets and you will find the perfect partner for you.